KUDOS From Kelly

By Kelly McNamara

Ingrid Philips and Tanya Johnson, Caregiver Team for Phyllis Steel: Every hour, every day of caregiving is important, special work. Each client presents an opportunity to gain a new friend, learn about his/her life, and meet all her physical, emotional and spiritual needs. When we know those days are limited, our caregivers are especially engaged with their clients to live their best possible remaining days.

When one entered Phyllis’ apartment, the dignified lady who welcomed them did not appear to be a hospice patient. She was in curlers recently shampooed and hair set by Ingrid. Dressed for the day, she was planning on meeting with her Book Club friends and was already excited about another new book chosen. Phyllis had a lovely family so visitors were a regular event for her. When she remarked how she was a teacher, mother and grandmother, (AND GREAT GRANDMOTHER ) we asked if she would like a visit by one of our other caregivers Angie and her baby Mishelle. She readily agreed and enjoyed a fun filled visit. A long awaited field trip to a local popular thrift store had her planning and plotting her potential purchases in the preceding days. She and Ingrid were like teenagers, proudly showing off their purchases.

As their beloved client began to decline, Tanya and Ingrid became vigilant with pain management and comfort measures. Vitas Hospice staff were enormously helpful to them in navigating through her care. When it became apparent that her days were clearly numbered, her spirits remained high as she planned and ordered her daily meals especially dessert. Her very serious request of all of us was that her children, who lived a distance away not be informed that she was near dearth. So serious was she, we dutifully honored it. She was, after all , the boss. Tanya cared for her during her last day, keeping her comfortable, filling every request including chocolate cake and jello. Dying at home, her adamant wish, was fulfilled. And with Tanya at her side she was never alone. After a lifetime of giving to others, Phyllis was finally the recipient of our best loving care at the end. As it should be. An honor for us. Farewell, friend.

All caregivers mentioned in this column will receive a gift card and our sincere appreciation! Many many thanks to all of you for once again extending yourselves to ensure that we are of course Always There…!! ■